You ever have a moment where you're explaining something to someone else and while you understood the subject matter before, you have an ah ha! moment where you understand it on a deeper level? I had a moment like that earlier this week talking to a friend at work.
She had spent a lot of time that morning discussing how she was working to avoid sweets and cut down on carbs because she really wanted to get in better shape and eat healthier. As you know, this is a journey that I've been on for a while. I've learned a lot of things from very knowledgeable people and experiences along the way although I'm still working on my own implementation....
She was having a particularly rough day that day and towards the end of the day she started talking about how she wanted a large cheese pizza, chocolate chip cookies, and a sweet tea. Then she said "I deserve that after today!" *Cue Ah Ha! Moment* I poked my head out and said, weeeelllllll, really, if your goal is to eat healthier and get in better shape, then you might really want the pizza, cookies, and sweet tea but if it doesn't help you get where you want to go, then you don't deserve it. You deserve to be strong and make choices that help you obtain your goal.
It made me realize how much we say what we deserve and some of those things that we say we have earned because of rough experiences, they're really wants. My friend chose to walk laps at one of the local schools and have a healthier dinner than she was previously dreaming of that evening. She deserved that.
I need to follow my own advice too. What can I do to help myself reach my goals? I'm going to be working to take a better look at what I deserve.
I need to start by saying I LOVE my life. It is messy and has its sad and painful moments, but it is mostly joy. After years of trying to do everything, I realized that that wasn't working well for me. I wasn't being the best me when I was stretched so thin. So, I started to let go to some things that I had held on to for so long. I was on a couple different boards at school and through the kids activities that had weekly and/or monthly meetings. I stepped back a bit and let other people have a turn. I still help out and am involved, but in more of a supportive role and with the ability to say "no" if needed.
I've struggled with my weight since being a mom. I had always been able to lose weight when I wanted to, so I wasn't worried with my first pregnancy about the weight that I gained....and I was so tired and felt so nauseous that I didn't push myself to stay active. I ate a lot of carbs, took a lot of naps, and gained a lot of weight. I hadn't quite lost all of the weight from baby 1 when I found out I was pregnant with baby 2. I did much better the second time around. It was easier with a toddler to chase. Not as much time for naps and built in mandatory daily activity. The weight from baby 2 came off very quickly. I'm still holding on to some of the weight from baby 1 and I have had a lot of trouble getting it off.
I've been on a journey the past year to try and adjust life so I reflect the "me" I want to present to others and to myself. Part of that journey is getting back to the healthier version of myself...and for me that includes weight loss and more exercise.
This is something I have been working on for years...and years...and years. I have tried diets and plans and products. The conclusion I have come to is that those are not the right path for me. I need a make over. I need to look at food differently. I need to look at exercise differently.
My dad shared with me last week about some oatmeal he has been making. I've been eating oatmeal some mornings too adding frozen blueberries to it. (The frozen berries cool off the oatmeal, and frozen fruit doesn't go bad as quickly! :)) He was telling me he was also butting peanut powder in his, That's such a great idea! Added protein will hopefully keep me fuller longer. :) I made some this morning. We'll see how it goes! :)
Anyone else on a similar journey?? Got any good tips to share?? :)
I finally got to around to watching "My Big Fat Greek Wedding 2." I was excited about it because I really enjoyed the first one. I come from a very large extended family and although my family is not Greek and I am not first generation American, we are still new enough to the United States historically that I could see my family in many of the scenes.
In one scene Aunt Voula tells Toula to remember that she was a girlfriend before she was a mother. That got me to thinking. Sometimes we get lost in all of the roles that we take on as we grow up. No matter how much we love the role(s) we're getting lost in, I think it is important to continue to evaluate how we wear our hats to make sure that we are the "me" we want to be. Not a selfish "me", but a "me" that includes a blend of all of our roles...easier said than done, I know! :)
I can't forget that before I wore many of these hats, I was me. In order to succeed in my other roles I need to take care of myself too. This is a tough one because many of my other hats are more precious to me. I think many can relate to this.